When people are asked the question, “What is it that you want out of life?” The most common response is, “… I just want to be happy.”
Yet we put happiness on the other side of countless hurdles and roadblocks that it becomes nearly impossible to attain.
But what if, just going out on a limb here, we let ourselves be happy while in pursuit of our wishes, goals and dreams? Wouldn’t that be more fun?
We do not, in fact, get extra points for fighting miserably to achieve success; again, whatever success means to you. I’ve read countless stories about people “achieving” success only to get there and look around and realize they’ve lost their marriage, and missed years and years of their children’s lives in order to, you know, “make it.”
The truth is our primitive brains have a stubborn habit of remembering the bad over the good. Not a biological default, per se, when you’re calling to mind which berries are poison or recalling the last time you were chased by a lion.
Thousands of years later, though, we hold grudges, and replay stories, and bitch and moan and complain like we’re still being chased. We can’t get enough of CNN; we love to cringe at a good public meltdown on FB; we can’t help but watch reality shows, the worse the better; and we commiserate almost everywhere on just about anything.
The thing is you actually have to train your brain to seek out more positivity. You must disconnect from the negative noise that surrounds you. And, most importantly, you have to be willing to “clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth.”
I’ll be the first to admit that all this happiness stuff put in question my cool when I first got on the party train. I’d slip in and out according to what company I kept. It’s odd to say now, but, clearly, I wasn’t comfortable being happy.
I’ll never forget when a good friend of mine laughed herself to tears when I told her I hadn’t had a bad day in over two years–and that was two years ago, and still counting.
Believe me when I tell you that I still have my hardships, that I haven’t been in the best of health, that my bank account hasn’t left three digits in months, that my biggest wishes and dreams still feel like a far reach, that doubts and fears still creep up, YET I CHOOSE happiness everyday. I CHOOSE to stay present in what I’m facing each moment. Because I don’t just feel, I KNOW happiness is the truth.
And I’m not afraid to dance to prove it.
I leave you with this: For the next 48 hours, unplug from all negative noise that surrounds you. The news, the newspaper, news radio, internet news, reality shows, don’t click on links promising juicy negativity, don’t add to drama live or web-based, no water cooler bitching, no gossiping, no horn beeping or bird throwing …. none. Read a book (not a murder mystery), watch an uplifting movie, go for a walk, try a meditation, take a bath, call an old friend, call me if you have to. Just get dancing.
#Onward and upward